Yesterday, I had an explosion of an empathic experience that gave me a profound understanding of the depth of someone dear to me. It felt as though I was experiencing it firsthand. I could feel her, truly feel her, and sense the weight of her experiences, especially from her childhood. It was as if I was able to step into her shoes and see the world from her eyes, understanding the conditions and circumstances that shaped her. What struck me the most was how lost she felt as a child — a child who never received the guidance or support she needed. Her mother, unfortunately, was unable to offer the kind of nurturing that could have made a difference. Instead, everything she did seemed to be wrong in her mother’s eyes. The disapproval, the lack of understanding, left deep scars. It felt like her childhood was frozen in time, stuck in patterns and behaviors that had never been allowed to evolve or shift.
As I was given this experience, a wave of understanding washed over me. I saw that in our lives, many of us have been conditioned in a similar way. From a young age, we were told what to do, what not to do, and when we stepped outside the lines, we were met with criticism, condemnation, or worse, the feeling of being "stupid" or "wrong." It is a pattern that is so deeply embedded in us that, for most of our lives, we rarely question it. We were taught to fit into a mold, to conform, and when we didn't, we were punished or shamed in some way. I realized, in that moment, that this environment — this conditioning — is meant to serve a purpose: it pushes us to work through our shadows, to face our limitations, and ultimately, to transform them into our gifts. In time, we reach a place of siddhi, a place of mastery and transcendence.
In The Being of My Emotional Intelligence - Empathy
However, as I felt this connection with her, I also realized something crucial: while our situations may be similar, they are not the same. Each of us carries our own unique set of experiences, patterns, and traumas. What works for one person may not work for another. Our journeys, although they may share similarities, require different paths and different healing processes.
This is when I understood something deeply, my empathy, emotional intelligence was activated. We know these things intellectually, but it is when we experience them firsthand that we truly understand. As I experienced her past, I felt the deep pain she carried, and tears started pouring down my face. I wished, with every fiber of my being, that I could take away her suffering. I wanted to unfreeze that part of her, to release her from the chains of her past, and help her move forward with ease. In that moment, I felt her suffering as if it were my own. The desire to heal her, to ease her pain, was overwhelming. But then, a realization set in: as much as I wanted to, I cannot take away someone else’s journey. No matter how deeply I feel for her or how much I wish to help, each person must walk their own path. The healing must come from within. What I can do is offer support, be present, and hold space for her, but ultimately, the work is hers to do.
The reason I am writing this is because I know that, at many points in our lives, we all face similar challenges. We are told who we are, what we should do, and who we should become. We are often measured against others, and our failures or mistakes are seen as flaws instead of opportunities for growth. We are conditioned to work through these shadows, but the process is long and painful. At times, it feels like a burden we will never escape. However, it is in these moments that we learn, evolve, and eventually transform our shadows into something beautiful — our gifts, our siddhi.
Our Emotional Intelligence - Empathy
Empathy is the ability to deeply understand and share another’s feelings without judgment, but it does not mean pity. Pity sees someone as helpless, often creating a sense of separation or superiority. Empathy, on the other hand, fosters connection by recognizing another’s experience while holding space for their strength and resilience. It allows us to support others without diminishing their agency, encouraging understanding, growth, and mutual respect rather than reinforcing victimhood.
This is where emotional Intelligence, empathy process is not linear, and it is not always easy. Each person’s journey is different, and we all have our own pace. Sometimes, we wish we could fix things for others, take away their struggles, or unfreeze parts of them that are stuck in the past. But the truth is, each of us must go through this process in our own way, at our own time. We can support each other along the way, but ultimately, the healing must come from within.
In the end, what I realized is that the journey is the most important part. It is the struggle, the growth, and the understanding that comes through the shadows that makes us who we are meant to become. And though it is hard sometimes, I know that this path is essential for us to step into our gifts and, eventually, our siddhi.
And as I reflect on this experience, I feel a deeper compassion for both myself and for her — for the challenges we face, and for the strength it takes to move forward.
This experience has taught me that while we can’t take away the struggles of those we care about, we can walk alongside them, offer empathy, and trust in their own ability to heal and transform.
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